Fighting for Education in the Face of Adversity: The Struggles Facing a Teen Mother in Ghana – Charity’s Story

17-year-old Charity is a lover of sports, especially running, so, one day, she decided to join her school sports team. It was there that she met Jonathan, a former JHS 2 student, and they became fast friends. They began meeting up after school, and soon, to Charity’s joy, Jonathan asked her to be his girlfriend. He showered her with gifts, food and money, and Charity enjoyed every moment of their time together during and after school. She felt incredibly lucky and felt her friends were beginning to get jealous of her boyfriend, who was a senior.

But, in an instant, any envy she felt from her friends was obliterated.

Charity woke up one morning in terrible pain. Her stomach hurt so badly she had to be rushed to the hospital. Her mother was frantic, and, after multiple medical examinations, the doctor finally had an answer for them. Charity was three months pregnant.

Charity was in shock. She hadn’t felt any symptoms or witnessed any of the signs of pregnancy. She was terrified. She didn’t know anything about being a mother. She didn’t know how her classmates and friends would treat her, but she was afraid it would be with judgement.

Through this upsetting time, Charity cried often. Her mother, heavily pregnant at the time, was constantly in tears. Charity is the only girl in her family, having two brothers, and her mother always had high hopes for her. Watching her mother cry only fueled her own tears, as her deep disappointment broke Charity’s heart. Charity was filled with regret. She desperately wished she could go back and change things, but she knew that no amount of tears could change the past.

To Charity’s amazement, her father took the news well. Charity and her mother told him Jonathan was the father, and then went to Jonathan’s house to inform his parents. Jonathan’s parents were also supportive. They agreed to take care of all the medical expenses during her pregnancy and to take care of the baby after the birth.

Charity tried to stay in school but eventually had to drop out because of her condition. Watching her friends go to school every morning was hard, but her mother always gave her a shoulder to cry on and assured her that everything would work out for the best.

It is rare for girls who drop out because of pregnancy to return to school, but Charity refused to be one of those girls. The prospect of returning to school was daunting. Charity feared being teased and people talking about her behind her back, but she had dreams and aspirations and refused to let anything stand in her way.

I have always dreamt of being a caterer because I love to cook and so I wasn’t ready to give up that dream just because I got pregnant at a young age. If people could achieve their dreams I don’t see why I can’t achieve mine.

Right after Charity gave birth she went to her parents and informed them she wanted to return to school. Her parents were pleased, and her mother offered to take care of Charity’s baby while she was in school. And so, two weeks later, with support from her parents, Charity returned to school.

Upon her return, Charity was faced with all the things she had feared. She was teased and pointed at by her classmates, but Charity’s goal was to go to school and complete her education, so she did not let her classmates get to her.

There were days that I was tempted to give up, but one question that I keep asking myself when these thoughts come to mind is ‘give up and do what?’ There is absolutely nothing you can do when you give up but when you persevere and push through the tough moments you will surely make a difference

Although Charity faced difficulties, she received support from her loved ones. Jonathan had completed school the previous year, but when he found out Charity was being bothered he always came to her defense. With time, the teasing died down. Charity’s determination to continue her education showed her classmates that continuing your education, even after becoming a mother, is a challenging but rewarding decision, and came to understand that every child has the right to an education, regardless of circumstance.

I want to encourage every young girl out there to focus and work hard for what they want because the situations we find ourselves in today does not determine who we will be tomorrow, but rather our efforts.